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Thursday, September 22, 2016
It Is Safe To Have Sex During Pregnancy?
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If your sex drive increased after you got pregnant, you are not alone. In fact, OB/GYNs have pointed out that many women experience increased libido during pregnancy. This also leaves women asking many related questions, such as “is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?” The good news is that not only is it safe in the vast majority of cases but it can even be helpful.
Sex During Pregnancy is Normal and Healthy
Biologically speaking, there is absolutely nothing unusual about feeling the desire to have sex throughout your pregnancy. This is due to hormonal factors, and many women feel especially revved up near the end of their first trimester. You may also become more sexually charged due to the increased blood flow that pregnancy is sending to your breasts and sexual organs.
It is important to note that some women battle throughout pregnancy with a complete lack of desire for sex. This is also normal, and it may be caused by fluctuating hormones, body confidence issues and morning sickness. Either way, if you do decide to have sex while you are pregnant, you should not experience any serious negative consequences as long as your pregnancy has been progressing normally.
Is it Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy if You Have a History of Miscarriages?
Many people have the misconception that sexual activity during pregnancy can lead to a miscarriage. The reality is that miscarriages typically happen as the result of abnormal fetal development, which has nothing to do with your sex life. Your uterus’ amniotic fluid is protecting your baby, and having sex may even keep you healthier. Researchers have discovered that women who have sex while they are pregnant are less likely to deal with a variety of potentially serious health complications, including eclampsia, pre-eclampsia and hypertension.
Is There Anything to be Concerned About Regarding Pregnancy Sex?
Although sex during pregnancy is normal and safe in the vast majority of cases, there are always exceptions to every rule. Therefore, it is vital to be aware that there are some situations that may make it medically necessary not to have sex. Your physician should inform you if sexual activity could cause complications due to issues such as placenta previa and cervical incompetence. Additionally, if you have any unexplained bleeding or begin leaking amniotic fluid, it will be necessary to speak to your doctor about whether or not you can continue having sex during the rest of your pregnancy.
Can We Still Use Our Favorite Positions?
There are typically no positions that are off-limits from a medical perspective, but your physical comfort will play a role in how you choose to proceed sexually. It is common for pregnant women to switch to being on top or in a spooning position. You can also proceed with oral sex, but you need to be aware of one potential complication: if your partner blows air into your vagina, you may end up with a blocked blood vessel. Make sure that you discuss this in advance so that it does not become a problem.
Will Sex Cause Labor?
Numerous scientists have suggested that the presence of prostaglandin in semen might be able to induce labor. However, a study that was published in 2012 was unable to find any conclusive link between sex and going into labor. On the plus side, researchers did not find any indication that having sex near your due date will cause any negative side effects. Interestingly, women who are known to be at risk for preterm labor may be told by their physician that it is best to abstain from sex during their third trimester.
As you can see, your hormones may make you feel a strong desire for sex. If this happens and you do not have any existing medical issues that make sexual activity dangerous, you should feel free to enjoy yourself! It is possible for women to develop a UTI after vigorous sex, but you can minimize this risk by taking a softer, gentler approach.
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If your sex drive increased after you got pregnant, you are not alone. In fact, OB/GYNs have pointed out that many women experience increased libido during pregnancy. This also leaves women asking many related questions, such as “is it safe to have sex during pregnancy?” The good news is that not only is it safe in the vast majority of cases but it can even be helpful.
Sex During Pregnancy is Normal and Healthy
Biologically speaking, there is absolutely nothing unusual about feeling the desire to have sex throughout your pregnancy. This is due to hormonal factors, and many women feel especially revved up near the end of their first trimester. You may also become more sexually charged due to the increased blood flow that pregnancy is sending to your breasts and sexual organs.
It is important to note that some women battle throughout pregnancy with a complete lack of desire for sex. This is also normal, and it may be caused by fluctuating hormones, body confidence issues and morning sickness. Either way, if you do decide to have sex while you are pregnant, you should not experience any serious negative consequences as long as your pregnancy has been progressing normally.
Is it Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy if You Have a History of Miscarriages?
Many people have the misconception that sexual activity during pregnancy can lead to a miscarriage. The reality is that miscarriages typically happen as the result of abnormal fetal development, which has nothing to do with your sex life. Your uterus’ amniotic fluid is protecting your baby, and having sex may even keep you healthier. Researchers have discovered that women who have sex while they are pregnant are less likely to deal with a variety of potentially serious health complications, including eclampsia, pre-eclampsia and hypertension.
Is There Anything to be Concerned About Regarding Pregnancy Sex?
Although sex during pregnancy is normal and safe in the vast majority of cases, there are always exceptions to every rule. Therefore, it is vital to be aware that there are some situations that may make it medically necessary not to have sex. Your physician should inform you if sexual activity could cause complications due to issues such as placenta previa and cervical incompetence. Additionally, if you have any unexplained bleeding or begin leaking amniotic fluid, it will be necessary to speak to your doctor about whether or not you can continue having sex during the rest of your pregnancy.
Can We Still Use Our Favorite Positions?
There are typically no positions that are off-limits from a medical perspective, but your physical comfort will play a role in how you choose to proceed sexually. It is common for pregnant women to switch to being on top or in a spooning position. You can also proceed with oral sex, but you need to be aware of one potential complication: if your partner blows air into your vagina, you may end up with a blocked blood vessel. Make sure that you discuss this in advance so that it does not become a problem.
Will Sex Cause Labor?
Numerous scientists have suggested that the presence of prostaglandin in semen might be able to induce labor. However, a study that was published in 2012 was unable to find any conclusive link between sex and going into labor. On the plus side, researchers did not find any indication that having sex near your due date will cause any negative side effects. Interestingly, women who are known to be at risk for preterm labor may be told by their physician that it is best to abstain from sex during their third trimester.
As you can see, your hormones may make you feel a strong desire for sex. If this happens and you do not have any existing medical issues that make sexual activity dangerous, you should feel free to enjoy yourself! It is possible for women to develop a UTI after vigorous sex, but you can minimize this risk by taking a softer, gentler approach.
8 Funny Comics About Parenting That You Need To See
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Parenting is a full-time job that you may find absolutely wearisome, but at the end of the day you love it. This is life, parents! With two kids, aged 22 months apart, in my life, I don’t even know how the time passes! I say God has given us, the parents, the special power to endure our children’s tantrums, their constant crankiness, their laughter.
There are times when the frustration levels hit a high and you feel down and cranky — just like your kids. But parenting is fun as well. Lots of fun. And to lighten things up, to make you realise the funny side of parenting, here is a man, a cartoonist to be more exact, who has made hilarious parenting comics. These cover most of the daily topics we go through.
Brian Gordon is his name. Just like you and I, he is a dad who struggles with being a dad. Sound familiar? Well, he’s a genius (and a geek) who made his own website called Fowl Language Comics, where you will find comics which are pretty much taken from his real life experiences. So, without further ado, here are 8 funny comics about parenting that you definitely need to see!
1.
Perfect strip to start this with! Parenting is all about frustration, drudgery, testing your patience to the fullest. Yet, it is the best thing on earth. Parenting is confusing. A good confusion. It doesn’t make sense. Have a kid, you will understand. And if you already have a kid, then you know what I mean!
2.
This is one of the truest facts on earth! Noisy kids are so much better. Because once your rowdy kids are silent, you know they are up to some super mischief. Do not trust the silent ones. Bottom line: Silence is golden — unless you have kids, then silence is dangerous.
3.
All the parents, especially the new ones, will totally agree with this one. This happens to me EVERY time I decide to have some me time. Unfortunately, for the last three and a half years, I have been unsuccessful in enjoying whatever little free time I have on hand. The following cartoon strip will give you a wider explanation for your ultimate exhaustion.
4.
Be prepared, parents! Children of all ages will simply wake you up because they felt like it. Or because they are bored. Newborns have a natural instinct for staying wide awake at the wrong times — especially when it’s night and human beings are supposed to sleep. By the time they catch up on the normal routine, they will wake up in the middle of the night and either start crying because they are hungry, or they will start playing, and will expect you to accompany them. There goes your sleep!
5.
Talking about kids playing — half the time you are standing there clueless because what you are doing is wrong and you just don’t understand the nature of the game. It’s long and complicated. In the end, there are high probabilities of both the players reaching peak levels of frustration. It happens.
6.
It doesn’t really matter whether you have failed in playing with your child. If you are blessed with two (or more), they won’t even need you. They have amazing team work. Or something of that sort. This happens to me all the time. No matter in which room I go, once I leave their room, I’ll count up to five seconds, and voila! One of them (usually the younger one) will scream at the top of her lungs. No one knows what happens in that span of five seconds!
7.
With our first child, we are always on alert. By the time we welcome the second mini-me, we have ground knowledge of some common things kids do. For example, their sudden fits of screaming. They have their own reasons, of course — we just fail to understand them.
8.
This is the best. And hilarious. We are so used to them falling down, scratching arms and legs, bleeding through this body part, straining that body part, that by the time they are older, we just give up. You break your leg? Just put some ice bags over it and you’ll be fine. No more panic attacks. We are over it.
No matter what they do, how bizarre they get, how annoying they can be, we love them with all our hearts. Parenting is the best thing that can happen. They’ll keep you entertained non-stop. When they grow up and become independent, you’ll look back and smile. You’ll miss them. So, enjoy your parenting while you can!
The Top 10 Most Useless Degrees(And Why)
If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering how valuable your current degree will be for your career. Or maybe you’re a highschool senior, debating which degree to pursue.
As someone who has extensively researched the value of a degree before deciding to drop out of university, let me share my two cents on the matter. It may shift your perspective.
Before we go over the 10 most useless degrees in college, let’s go over some major gaps that apply towards pursuing a degree in the first place.
False sense of security
Growing up, we were promised the illusion of the golden ticket. We are told to earn a paper degree, and watch the opportunities roll in.
This may have been true 30–40 years ago, where only 26% of middle-class workers had a degree. Today, when almost everyone has a college degree (if not a Master’s), its value is increasingly becoming a commodity rather than an asset.
As a result, the golden ticket we were promised rarely leads to our desired job upon graduation, if at all. According to the U.S Department of Labor, 53.6% of college graduates under the age of 25 are either unemployed or underemployed.
Misalignment of goals
This may be harsh to hear for some people, but most college professors don’t have your best interest as their priority. There’s two reasons for that.
The first is the increasing number of professor to student ratio, where some lecture halls seat over 500+ students per professor. This makes it incredibly difficult to develop a genuine relationship. This also leads to receiving general and unspecific advice from professors.
The second reason is that most professors have their research and tenure as a higher priority than helping students get the best education for their career. Many professors are using the institution’s facilities and resources for their own research, and are teaching as part of their contract.
There’s rarely a good outcome if there’s a misalignment in any relationship.
Better alternatives
The good news to all of this is: you’re in control. There’s better alternatives and more opportunities than before, from getting practical experience, to leveraging new social communities, even avoiding the degree as a whole — the list just goes on.
With each of the most useless degrees I mention below, I’ll share an alternative you could explore in lieu of your 4-year journey.
1. Advertising
Don Draper may have been “the man” back in 1960; however, with the rise of technology, the advertising industry is shifting faster than ever. The core reason for this is that we’re no longer living in the billboard/banner ad age. Consumers have all the power today. We can choose what we pay attention to and what we tune out.
Many companies question the ROI of advertising as a whole, big agencies are struggling in a world of free media, and new social networks are popping up every year.
Alternative: Stay ahead of new media trends and learn everything you can about it, from new social networks, to marketing channels, etc. Become an expert and share the actual results you’ve received with potential employers or clients. Results will be the only thing that matters.
2. Music
Music is different from advertising since its theory stands the test of time. However, that in itself is the problem: it’s only theory.
If your goal is to one day become a professional musician, learning about its history and the musical terms and instruments is not going to accelerate your success. As Malcolm Gladwell proclaims in his book, “The Outlier”, what made The Beatles become one of the greatest bands in history was the 10,000 hours of practice they had in their early stages.
Alternative: If you want to be a performer in any industry, from musician, to comedian, to keynote speaker: put in the hours. Form your own band. Find every opportunity to get on stage and become the performer you want to be, not an expert in musical theory.
3. Computer Science
Technology is almost always ahead of traditional education. This poses a big contradiction if you’re trying to stay ahead of the latest trends that will help you be in demand of great companies upon graduation.
Be clear with your end goal. Are you looking to learn how computers work, or are you looking to be recruited by the Google’s of the world?
Alternative: Assuming most of you reading this are looking to learn how to code, it’s easier than ever to do this on your own. Check out free platforms such as Codeacademy or Treehouse, and apply it directly by building your own website.
4. Creative Writing
If you’re looking to express your creative mindset, this degree isn’t it.
The first reason is that most professors frown upon modern fiction, and would rather teach you about how it was done in the 1800s. The second is, the only compensated positions that most “creative writers” end up at is writing Top 10 lists for the Internet. There’s better ways to spend 4 years learning how to express yourself.
Alternative: One is, start your own blog. This not only helps you get real practical experience on expressing and condensing your mind, but you can also receive immediate feedback from your audience. Here’s the cherry on top of the sundae, if you manage to build a large enough audience, you can potentially make enough money to be your own boss!
5. Philosophy
Philosophy is the go-to degree when discussing the most useless degrees. This isn’t to dismiss the importance of philosophy, as many influential thinkers such as Tim Ferriss use Stoic Philosophy as a framework for making better decisions. The problem is the way it’s being taught. Professors choose theoretical topics of philosophy that will stir debate and discussion, which rarely applies to our real day-to-day lives.
Alternative: There’s books available, such as “The Obstacle is the Way,” on practical philosophy that will help you make better decisions in life. If you want to learn about the history of Philosophy, there are hundreds of books available on that as well.
6. Communication
If you need a communication degree to prove you can communicate, then you haven’t fully experienced college.
College is where you discover the necessary communication skills to nurture relationships, develop the ability to communicate with new people, and learn about your communication strengths and weaknesses. You’ll learn far more about communication from opening yourself up to meeting new people in your college than spending 4 years about how to talk.
Alternative: Create your own podcast. Find a topic that you’re passionate about and start interviewing people. As ironic as it may sound, the best communicators of the world are not the best speakers. Instead, the people who can ask interesting questions and know how to listen make the best communicators. On top of that, podcasting will help you connect with influential people in your industry, which is a far better strategy of landing your dream job than a degree.
7. Education
Do you want to become a great teacher, have an impact, and share your message with students? Well, you may be disappointed to hear that most teachers receive a nominal salary compared to their relative value. Why not get paid what you’re worth, while potentially impacting millions of students around the world versus a few hundred in your local city?
Alternative: Today, anyone can become a teacher. You can share a practical skill you’ve developed with others, or you can teach people how to shoot photography, how to learn a new language, and more by creating your own Youtube channel, creating your own online course, or signing up for a teaching platform. The opportunities are endless with the rise of online teaching.
8. Languages
As globalization increases at an exponential rate, learning a new language is not only a great asset to have on your resume, but it’s also quickly becoming a necessity. Despite its increasing importance, it doesn’t require an investment of $30,000 to learn the history and literature of the language from a non-native speaking professor. In fact, it’s unlikely you’ll ever use most of the theoretical knowledge you learn about languages in the real world.
Alternative: Much like computer science, you don’t need to learn a language inside and out just in order to speak it fluently. There are existing language learning platforms like Rype that are 0.1% of the investment for a college degree. This platform matches you with a native speaking language coach for one-on-one teaching, rather than learning in a lecture hall with 300 other students.
9. Criminal Justice
Most people entering this degree are looking to become a detective, police officer, or enter law. If that’s the case, earning a degree in Criminal Justice may not be the way to go. According to the BLS, police officers and detective are not necessarily required to have a degree beyond their highschool diploma. This is because most of the practical knowledge is earned upon joining the academy through sponsored on-the-job training.
Alternative: If your goal is to enter law, there are better degrees that will train you for getting into law school. In fact, law school expert Ann Levine states that Criminal Justice is not considered academically rigorous by major law schools. Instead, Levine recommends a degree like political science, that requires research, serious thought, and analysis.
10. Entrepreneurship
Learning entrepreneurship through a textbook is like watching a video on how to ride a bicycle without riding it. This bit of advice comes from personal experience. Every successful entrepreneur will tell you that entrepreneurship cannot be taught, it must be experienced. The calculated risk-taking, mental struggles, and hustle aren’t learned from a textbook, they come from being in the battlefield.
Alternative: The easiest alternative is to start your own business. This could be a side business you start, or something as simple as selling items on Ebay. The last thing you want to do is study the works of successful entrepreneurs without living it your own.
In Conclusion
“Ideas are easy. It’s the execution of ideas that really separates the sheep from the goats.” — Sue Grafton
Despite the points mentioned in this article, your college experience is something to be cherished. You’ll learn far more from the overall experience than inside the classroom.
The problem is not college itself, it’s our preconceived mindset of relying on some of the most useless degrees to make or break our careers. Most of us will end up working in professions that have nothing to do with our degrees.
Think about what your intention and end goals are by entering your degree of study. Where do you see yourself in 5 years upon graduation? How will this degree help you get there? Is it a degree that top employers are looking for? Or are there specific skill-sets that you want to develop to improve yourself?
Most importantly, you should use college as the time to explore yourself, take risks, and learn your strengths and weaknesses. It’s one of the first and only times you’ll have the freedom to make risky decisions with no real downsides. College can become the best experience of your life. Choosing the right degree is only one part of it.
As someone who has extensively researched the value of a degree before deciding to drop out of university, let me share my two cents on the matter. It may shift your perspective.
Before we go over the 10 most useless degrees in college, let’s go over some major gaps that apply towards pursuing a degree in the first place.
False sense of security
Growing up, we were promised the illusion of the golden ticket. We are told to earn a paper degree, and watch the opportunities roll in.
This may have been true 30–40 years ago, where only 26% of middle-class workers had a degree. Today, when almost everyone has a college degree (if not a Master’s), its value is increasingly becoming a commodity rather than an asset.
As a result, the golden ticket we were promised rarely leads to our desired job upon graduation, if at all. According to the U.S Department of Labor, 53.6% of college graduates under the age of 25 are either unemployed or underemployed.
Misalignment of goals
This may be harsh to hear for some people, but most college professors don’t have your best interest as their priority. There’s two reasons for that.
The first is the increasing number of professor to student ratio, where some lecture halls seat over 500+ students per professor. This makes it incredibly difficult to develop a genuine relationship. This also leads to receiving general and unspecific advice from professors.
The second reason is that most professors have their research and tenure as a higher priority than helping students get the best education for their career. Many professors are using the institution’s facilities and resources for their own research, and are teaching as part of their contract.
There’s rarely a good outcome if there’s a misalignment in any relationship.
Better alternatives
The good news to all of this is: you’re in control. There’s better alternatives and more opportunities than before, from getting practical experience, to leveraging new social communities, even avoiding the degree as a whole — the list just goes on.
With each of the most useless degrees I mention below, I’ll share an alternative you could explore in lieu of your 4-year journey.
1. Advertising
Don Draper may have been “the man” back in 1960; however, with the rise of technology, the advertising industry is shifting faster than ever. The core reason for this is that we’re no longer living in the billboard/banner ad age. Consumers have all the power today. We can choose what we pay attention to and what we tune out.
Many companies question the ROI of advertising as a whole, big agencies are struggling in a world of free media, and new social networks are popping up every year.
Alternative: Stay ahead of new media trends and learn everything you can about it, from new social networks, to marketing channels, etc. Become an expert and share the actual results you’ve received with potential employers or clients. Results will be the only thing that matters.
2. Music
Music is different from advertising since its theory stands the test of time. However, that in itself is the problem: it’s only theory.
If your goal is to one day become a professional musician, learning about its history and the musical terms and instruments is not going to accelerate your success. As Malcolm Gladwell proclaims in his book, “The Outlier”, what made The Beatles become one of the greatest bands in history was the 10,000 hours of practice they had in their early stages.
Alternative: If you want to be a performer in any industry, from musician, to comedian, to keynote speaker: put in the hours. Form your own band. Find every opportunity to get on stage and become the performer you want to be, not an expert in musical theory.
3. Computer Science
Technology is almost always ahead of traditional education. This poses a big contradiction if you’re trying to stay ahead of the latest trends that will help you be in demand of great companies upon graduation.
Be clear with your end goal. Are you looking to learn how computers work, or are you looking to be recruited by the Google’s of the world?
Alternative: Assuming most of you reading this are looking to learn how to code, it’s easier than ever to do this on your own. Check out free platforms such as Codeacademy or Treehouse, and apply it directly by building your own website.
4. Creative Writing
If you’re looking to express your creative mindset, this degree isn’t it.
The first reason is that most professors frown upon modern fiction, and would rather teach you about how it was done in the 1800s. The second is, the only compensated positions that most “creative writers” end up at is writing Top 10 lists for the Internet. There’s better ways to spend 4 years learning how to express yourself.
Alternative: One is, start your own blog. This not only helps you get real practical experience on expressing and condensing your mind, but you can also receive immediate feedback from your audience. Here’s the cherry on top of the sundae, if you manage to build a large enough audience, you can potentially make enough money to be your own boss!
5. Philosophy
Philosophy is the go-to degree when discussing the most useless degrees. This isn’t to dismiss the importance of philosophy, as many influential thinkers such as Tim Ferriss use Stoic Philosophy as a framework for making better decisions. The problem is the way it’s being taught. Professors choose theoretical topics of philosophy that will stir debate and discussion, which rarely applies to our real day-to-day lives.
Alternative: There’s books available, such as “The Obstacle is the Way,” on practical philosophy that will help you make better decisions in life. If you want to learn about the history of Philosophy, there are hundreds of books available on that as well.
6. Communication
If you need a communication degree to prove you can communicate, then you haven’t fully experienced college.
College is where you discover the necessary communication skills to nurture relationships, develop the ability to communicate with new people, and learn about your communication strengths and weaknesses. You’ll learn far more about communication from opening yourself up to meeting new people in your college than spending 4 years about how to talk.
Alternative: Create your own podcast. Find a topic that you’re passionate about and start interviewing people. As ironic as it may sound, the best communicators of the world are not the best speakers. Instead, the people who can ask interesting questions and know how to listen make the best communicators. On top of that, podcasting will help you connect with influential people in your industry, which is a far better strategy of landing your dream job than a degree.
7. Education
Do you want to become a great teacher, have an impact, and share your message with students? Well, you may be disappointed to hear that most teachers receive a nominal salary compared to their relative value. Why not get paid what you’re worth, while potentially impacting millions of students around the world versus a few hundred in your local city?
Alternative: Today, anyone can become a teacher. You can share a practical skill you’ve developed with others, or you can teach people how to shoot photography, how to learn a new language, and more by creating your own Youtube channel, creating your own online course, or signing up for a teaching platform. The opportunities are endless with the rise of online teaching.
8. Languages
As globalization increases at an exponential rate, learning a new language is not only a great asset to have on your resume, but it’s also quickly becoming a necessity. Despite its increasing importance, it doesn’t require an investment of $30,000 to learn the history and literature of the language from a non-native speaking professor. In fact, it’s unlikely you’ll ever use most of the theoretical knowledge you learn about languages in the real world.
Alternative: Much like computer science, you don’t need to learn a language inside and out just in order to speak it fluently. There are existing language learning platforms like Rype that are 0.1% of the investment for a college degree. This platform matches you with a native speaking language coach for one-on-one teaching, rather than learning in a lecture hall with 300 other students.
9. Criminal Justice
Most people entering this degree are looking to become a detective, police officer, or enter law. If that’s the case, earning a degree in Criminal Justice may not be the way to go. According to the BLS, police officers and detective are not necessarily required to have a degree beyond their highschool diploma. This is because most of the practical knowledge is earned upon joining the academy through sponsored on-the-job training.
Alternative: If your goal is to enter law, there are better degrees that will train you for getting into law school. In fact, law school expert Ann Levine states that Criminal Justice is not considered academically rigorous by major law schools. Instead, Levine recommends a degree like political science, that requires research, serious thought, and analysis.
10. Entrepreneurship
Learning entrepreneurship through a textbook is like watching a video on how to ride a bicycle without riding it. This bit of advice comes from personal experience. Every successful entrepreneur will tell you that entrepreneurship cannot be taught, it must be experienced. The calculated risk-taking, mental struggles, and hustle aren’t learned from a textbook, they come from being in the battlefield.
Alternative: The easiest alternative is to start your own business. This could be a side business you start, or something as simple as selling items on Ebay. The last thing you want to do is study the works of successful entrepreneurs without living it your own.
In Conclusion
“Ideas are easy. It’s the execution of ideas that really separates the sheep from the goats.” — Sue Grafton
Despite the points mentioned in this article, your college experience is something to be cherished. You’ll learn far more from the overall experience than inside the classroom.
The problem is not college itself, it’s our preconceived mindset of relying on some of the most useless degrees to make or break our careers. Most of us will end up working in professions that have nothing to do with our degrees.
Think about what your intention and end goals are by entering your degree of study. Where do you see yourself in 5 years upon graduation? How will this degree help you get there? Is it a degree that top employers are looking for? Or are there specific skill-sets that you want to develop to improve yourself?
Most importantly, you should use college as the time to explore yourself, take risks, and learn your strengths and weaknesses. It’s one of the first and only times you’ll have the freedom to make risky decisions with no real downsides. College can become the best experience of your life. Choosing the right degree is only one part of it.
A Scientifically Proven Technique That Can Make Your Learning 50% Easier
Like or not, to become successful in many areas of life, whether it be in school, college, at work or just in learning a new hobby or skill, you need to master the art of retaining new information. Say you have an important test coming up for one of your college classes and you need to come well-prepared with a comprehensive set of facts and figures at your disposal. How should you get ready? Some study techniques and information retention techniques are more effective than others, so how should you tackle the task ahead of you?
This article will take you through the basics of a technique scientifically proven to increase learning and retention by up to 50% according to B. Price Kerfoot, associate professor of surgery at Harvard Medical School. Imagine the positive effect that could have on your study or career success! Even better, this method is not particularly arduous or complicated to learn. Almost anyone can do it. Every student, teacher, and parent should understand how it works and, more importantly, how to use it to ensure high-quality retention. It is especially suitable for remembering lists and vocabulary items.
The Power Of Spaced Repetition
We’re going to take a look at spaced repetition and how it can help you keep hold of large quantities of information. Essentially, spaced repetition entails leaving longer and longer gaps between the presentation of information. In the 1970s, writer and social commentator Sebastian Leitner developed the Leitner System. In this system, information is presented on pieces of paper or card (flashcards) until the learner demonstrates that he or she has memorized that particular concept.
To use this system, start by writing out key pieces of information on flashcards. Make them approximately the size of a small postcard. Each piece of information must make sense in its own right, but try to restrict yourself to one key concept or theory per card. On the other side of the card, write out a question that will test your knowledge. For instance, if you are using this system to learn French vocabulary, you could simply write the French word on one side and English word on the other. Each card should have a clear question and answer. You can test yourself, or if you have a study partner, ask them to help you out.
Next, find several empty boxes and line them up as shown in the diagram below.
Now, test yourself. Place all of your cards in Box 1. Go through them one by one, asking yourself the question written on the card before turning it over to see whether you answered correctly. If you get the answer correct, put the card in Box 2. If you get it wrong, place it back in Box 1. Now, here’s the really important part. The trick to making this system work is to go through the cards in the “lower” boxes more often than the “higher” boxes. In other words, you need to make sure that you are reviewing, re-testing, and re-learning the material with which you are the least familiar. This means that your learning time is used efficiently, because you are dedicating more time to your weaker areas, as opposed to re-hashing content with which you are already comfortable. This system removes the temptation to re-cap information you already know. It forces you to face the questions you find hardest!
It is up to you how frequently you review the questions in each box, but provided you stick to the basics — that you make sure successfully answered questions are moved to the next box, whereas incorrectly answered questions are demoted back to Box 1, and that you spend proportionately more time on the material in the lower boxes — this system will work for you. Why not try it the next time you have a long list of facts to memorize?
This article will take you through the basics of a technique scientifically proven to increase learning and retention by up to 50% according to B. Price Kerfoot, associate professor of surgery at Harvard Medical School. Imagine the positive effect that could have on your study or career success! Even better, this method is not particularly arduous or complicated to learn. Almost anyone can do it. Every student, teacher, and parent should understand how it works and, more importantly, how to use it to ensure high-quality retention. It is especially suitable for remembering lists and vocabulary items.
The Power Of Spaced Repetition
We’re going to take a look at spaced repetition and how it can help you keep hold of large quantities of information. Essentially, spaced repetition entails leaving longer and longer gaps between the presentation of information. In the 1970s, writer and social commentator Sebastian Leitner developed the Leitner System. In this system, information is presented on pieces of paper or card (flashcards) until the learner demonstrates that he or she has memorized that particular concept.
To use this system, start by writing out key pieces of information on flashcards. Make them approximately the size of a small postcard. Each piece of information must make sense in its own right, but try to restrict yourself to one key concept or theory per card. On the other side of the card, write out a question that will test your knowledge. For instance, if you are using this system to learn French vocabulary, you could simply write the French word on one side and English word on the other. Each card should have a clear question and answer. You can test yourself, or if you have a study partner, ask them to help you out.
Next, find several empty boxes and line them up as shown in the diagram below.
Now, test yourself. Place all of your cards in Box 1. Go through them one by one, asking yourself the question written on the card before turning it over to see whether you answered correctly. If you get the answer correct, put the card in Box 2. If you get it wrong, place it back in Box 1. Now, here’s the really important part. The trick to making this system work is to go through the cards in the “lower” boxes more often than the “higher” boxes. In other words, you need to make sure that you are reviewing, re-testing, and re-learning the material with which you are the least familiar. This means that your learning time is used efficiently, because you are dedicating more time to your weaker areas, as opposed to re-hashing content with which you are already comfortable. This system removes the temptation to re-cap information you already know. It forces you to face the questions you find hardest!
It is up to you how frequently you review the questions in each box, but provided you stick to the basics — that you make sure successfully answered questions are moved to the next box, whereas incorrectly answered questions are demoted back to Box 1, and that you spend proportionately more time on the material in the lower boxes — this system will work for you. Why not try it the next time you have a long list of facts to memorize?
5 Techniqes To Make Better Decisions
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How can I make better decisions?
I browsed the web and ended up on Qoura reading the most popular answers. People often suggested, “just do it,” “ignore fear of failure,” and “never turn back.”
I thought it over and really considered it. If I simply ignored the “fear of failure” and just “did it”, would that really be making a decision? Absolutely not!
“Just doing it” results in even more failures and even more regrets. Imagine if general George Patton just ignored his “fear of failure” and recklessly charged straight into enemy lines without a plan! Image if you, or your family and loved ones ignored all risk and “just did it” instead of taking the time to make a well informed decision.
Imagine if we applied those same results for:
– Buying a house
– Quitting your job
– Having kids
– Investing in a new business venture
– Getting Married
– Having a vasectomy
– Plastic surgery
It probably wouldn’t end up so well!
Instead of flipping a coin, using your magic 8 ball, or “just doing it”, here are 5 techniques to make better decisions.
1. “I cannot decide on what I do not know!”
Hal wanted to quit his job. After his workday was over, he sat down with a pen and paper and came up with a massive list of pros and cons. He wrote out everything he wanted to do and how he was going to make money. He imagined over and over the freedom and excitement that he would gain after leaving. The next day Hal walked into work and quit.
This may sound great to some but, the problem with Hal was that he did not know enough to make a good decision yet! He rushed what he actually had plenty of time to do.
Everything that he imagined and dreamed about was blurry. All the “facts” that Hal used to make his decision were NOT verified facts, but rather bits and pieces that he heard from his friends or picked up on from the far corners of the internet. Hal is extremely jaded.
Hal then replayed the same facts over and over in his head (thinking they were real). No new information was being added to the equation to allow him to make a better decision.
We often jump to conclusions when making difficult decisions that require serious thought and planning. We must first gather more information because:
You do not know what you do not know!
You cannot decide on what you do not know!
If I asked you to solve the following equation A + B + 2Z – 10X = P could you do it?
Not right away because there are too many unknowns! You could guess or use trial and error but that takes too much time and a great deal of effort in real life. We need to go out and collect more information to make a better decision.
We do not have all the answers
2. “Maybe you can help me?”
The quickest way to gathering more information to make that tough decision is to go out and ask other people. However, there is a trick. Ask the people who have already done it! Stay away from the people that don’t have any experience but seem to know everything.
This year, while I complete graduate school, I wanted to participate in applied clinical research. More specifically, I wanted to design and develop medical devices from a clinical need.
Instead of “just doing it,” I decided to reach out to a respected faculty member to see if it was a good idea. I went to him and poured my heart out. He looked at me like I had 2 heads and shunned me away!
I took the advice to heart and sulked a bit. Instead of just quitting, I decide to gather even more information! But this time, I reached out to other schools including MIT, Stanford, UMN, and Johns Hopkins. The information and feedback I got was amazing.
Why? Because all these schools were actually DOING IT! That had already developed over a hundred medical devices in the same fashion I wanted to do. Not only that, they had specific programs to help people like me who wanted to do that kind of research and design.
On the other hand, my school was not doing it and the professor I reached out to wasn’t either.
-Ask the people who are doing it or have already done it to get more information.
3. Seek the Devil’s Advocate.
As human beings, we are self-confirming. We naturally seek out information that we already agree with and tend to ignore information that we disagree with. Skepticism and denial can be good in some instances, but these characteristics must not be confused with being hard-headed.
Imagine 2 documents sitting right in front of you, one with information you agree with, and the second with information you disagree with. Whether you are right or wrong, or whether the information is right or wrong, you will pick the document that you agree with first and consider that information more seriously. Obviously, whether you are right or wrong, you will pick the document containing information you agree with first and take that more seriously.
Let’s go back to the “should I quit my job” example. You probably already REALLY want to quit your job and have already made up your mind. Now, instead of making a decision, you are just confirming your existing desire to quit, by collected confirming evidence. This confirmation bias blinds us from the obvious and has lead to some of the worst business decision ever made (for example, Quaker Oats‘ aquisition of Snapple).
To counteract this, reach out and collect information that opposes your existing viewpoints.
Good businesses use this process all the time. When Fortune 500 companies make big time investments (like acquiring another company, investing in new ventures, downsizing, re-sizing, etc.), they hire a completely separate team to investigate the opposing viewpoint, and then seriously consider the opposite.
Remember, “De-Nile isn’t just a river in Egypt.”
4. Beware of the sham options.
Everything seems great in comparison with something crappy.
The other day I was watching HGTV’s Home Hunters Abroad. A couple was shopping for a beautiful island home in Caruso. They required two things: it had to be less than $400,000, and it had to be rent-able.
The couple contacted a real estate, who I now realized was skilled in the art of sales. He lined up 3 beautiful houses. House number 1 cost $399,000 and was perched on top of a hill overlooking a magnificent clear blue bay. The couple fell in love with the view and was seriously considering buying the house until they found out the new construction would get in the way of their ocean view.
After seeing how the couple reacted to the ocean view, the real estate agent quickly changed his sales tactics. He showed them house #2, which had a stunning ocean view and a white sand beach a few steps from their back door.
The only problem was the house was $489,000 – a full $89,000 over budget. The couple was so angry at the real estate agent that they considered replacing him.
Finally the last on the list, house #3, had no view, was not rent-able and was $10,000 under budget.
Which house did they chose?
The couple went with house #2 that was $89,000 over budget! They made a poor decision and broke the bank because they were not aware of the sales trap the real estate agent set.
House #2 seemed like the best option in that context, compared to the shame option of house #3. In a different context, going an extra $89,000 over budget is a bad idea.
What they should have done was not buy anything and waited until something else showed up. However, when you are in the middle of a difficult decision, sometimes it’s hard to gain that kind of perspective.
5. Factor in the opportunity cost
How could the previous couple in the home buying example snap out of the mental trap set by the real estate agent?
The couple needed a change in perspective. When dealing with big number numbers like $400,000 and $486,000 the difference might not seem that much, but let’s take another look and consider the opportunity costs.
What is another to $89,000 to you? Well it’s another 2 years of saving every single cent of your paycheck (assuming you make ~$60,000 before taxes). Which means you cannot eat, buy gas, go out, or do anything for 2 entire years. You must save every single penny of your paycheck to afford the difference!
Here are more examples of what they could have bought with the amount the went over budget by:
A Porche 911 special edition
400 pairs of Air Jordan retro edition shoes ($215 each)
4,000 hours of work, assuming you make $60,000 before taxes
22,879 gallons of milk ($3.89 per gallon)
89 pounds of gold ($1,124.75 per oz)
Conclusion
Next time instead of jumping to conclusions and “just doing it”:
Take some time to gather more information. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Get more information people who have already done it, not the people who are trying to sell it.
Seek the devils advocate and seriously consider what they have to say. You might be just confirming yourself!
Beware of the shame option. All other options seem great in context to a crappy one.
Gain a greater perspective by considering the opportunity costs.
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How can I make better decisions?
I browsed the web and ended up on Qoura reading the most popular answers. People often suggested, “just do it,” “ignore fear of failure,” and “never turn back.”
I thought it over and really considered it. If I simply ignored the “fear of failure” and just “did it”, would that really be making a decision? Absolutely not!
“Just doing it” results in even more failures and even more regrets. Imagine if general George Patton just ignored his “fear of failure” and recklessly charged straight into enemy lines without a plan! Image if you, or your family and loved ones ignored all risk and “just did it” instead of taking the time to make a well informed decision.
Imagine if we applied those same results for:
– Buying a house
– Quitting your job
– Having kids
– Investing in a new business venture
– Getting Married
– Having a vasectomy
– Plastic surgery
It probably wouldn’t end up so well!
Instead of flipping a coin, using your magic 8 ball, or “just doing it”, here are 5 techniques to make better decisions.
1. “I cannot decide on what I do not know!”
Hal wanted to quit his job. After his workday was over, he sat down with a pen and paper and came up with a massive list of pros and cons. He wrote out everything he wanted to do and how he was going to make money. He imagined over and over the freedom and excitement that he would gain after leaving. The next day Hal walked into work and quit.
This may sound great to some but, the problem with Hal was that he did not know enough to make a good decision yet! He rushed what he actually had plenty of time to do.
Everything that he imagined and dreamed about was blurry. All the “facts” that Hal used to make his decision were NOT verified facts, but rather bits and pieces that he heard from his friends or picked up on from the far corners of the internet. Hal is extremely jaded.
Hal then replayed the same facts over and over in his head (thinking they were real). No new information was being added to the equation to allow him to make a better decision.
We often jump to conclusions when making difficult decisions that require serious thought and planning. We must first gather more information because:
You do not know what you do not know!
You cannot decide on what you do not know!
If I asked you to solve the following equation A + B + 2Z – 10X = P could you do it?
Not right away because there are too many unknowns! You could guess or use trial and error but that takes too much time and a great deal of effort in real life. We need to go out and collect more information to make a better decision.
We do not have all the answers
2. “Maybe you can help me?”
The quickest way to gathering more information to make that tough decision is to go out and ask other people. However, there is a trick. Ask the people who have already done it! Stay away from the people that don’t have any experience but seem to know everything.
This year, while I complete graduate school, I wanted to participate in applied clinical research. More specifically, I wanted to design and develop medical devices from a clinical need.
Instead of “just doing it,” I decided to reach out to a respected faculty member to see if it was a good idea. I went to him and poured my heart out. He looked at me like I had 2 heads and shunned me away!
I took the advice to heart and sulked a bit. Instead of just quitting, I decide to gather even more information! But this time, I reached out to other schools including MIT, Stanford, UMN, and Johns Hopkins. The information and feedback I got was amazing.
Why? Because all these schools were actually DOING IT! That had already developed over a hundred medical devices in the same fashion I wanted to do. Not only that, they had specific programs to help people like me who wanted to do that kind of research and design.
On the other hand, my school was not doing it and the professor I reached out to wasn’t either.
-Ask the people who are doing it or have already done it to get more information.
3. Seek the Devil’s Advocate.
As human beings, we are self-confirming. We naturally seek out information that we already agree with and tend to ignore information that we disagree with. Skepticism and denial can be good in some instances, but these characteristics must not be confused with being hard-headed.
Imagine 2 documents sitting right in front of you, one with information you agree with, and the second with information you disagree with. Whether you are right or wrong, or whether the information is right or wrong, you will pick the document that you agree with first and consider that information more seriously. Obviously, whether you are right or wrong, you will pick the document containing information you agree with first and take that more seriously.
Let’s go back to the “should I quit my job” example. You probably already REALLY want to quit your job and have already made up your mind. Now, instead of making a decision, you are just confirming your existing desire to quit, by collected confirming evidence. This confirmation bias blinds us from the obvious and has lead to some of the worst business decision ever made (for example, Quaker Oats‘ aquisition of Snapple).
To counteract this, reach out and collect information that opposes your existing viewpoints.
Good businesses use this process all the time. When Fortune 500 companies make big time investments (like acquiring another company, investing in new ventures, downsizing, re-sizing, etc.), they hire a completely separate team to investigate the opposing viewpoint, and then seriously consider the opposite.
Remember, “De-Nile isn’t just a river in Egypt.”
4. Beware of the sham options.
Everything seems great in comparison with something crappy.
The other day I was watching HGTV’s Home Hunters Abroad. A couple was shopping for a beautiful island home in Caruso. They required two things: it had to be less than $400,000, and it had to be rent-able.
The couple contacted a real estate, who I now realized was skilled in the art of sales. He lined up 3 beautiful houses. House number 1 cost $399,000 and was perched on top of a hill overlooking a magnificent clear blue bay. The couple fell in love with the view and was seriously considering buying the house until they found out the new construction would get in the way of their ocean view.
After seeing how the couple reacted to the ocean view, the real estate agent quickly changed his sales tactics. He showed them house #2, which had a stunning ocean view and a white sand beach a few steps from their back door.
The only problem was the house was $489,000 – a full $89,000 over budget. The couple was so angry at the real estate agent that they considered replacing him.
Finally the last on the list, house #3, had no view, was not rent-able and was $10,000 under budget.
Which house did they chose?
The couple went with house #2 that was $89,000 over budget! They made a poor decision and broke the bank because they were not aware of the sales trap the real estate agent set.
House #2 seemed like the best option in that context, compared to the shame option of house #3. In a different context, going an extra $89,000 over budget is a bad idea.
What they should have done was not buy anything and waited until something else showed up. However, when you are in the middle of a difficult decision, sometimes it’s hard to gain that kind of perspective.
5. Factor in the opportunity cost
How could the previous couple in the home buying example snap out of the mental trap set by the real estate agent?
The couple needed a change in perspective. When dealing with big number numbers like $400,000 and $486,000 the difference might not seem that much, but let’s take another look and consider the opportunity costs.
What is another to $89,000 to you? Well it’s another 2 years of saving every single cent of your paycheck (assuming you make ~$60,000 before taxes). Which means you cannot eat, buy gas, go out, or do anything for 2 entire years. You must save every single penny of your paycheck to afford the difference!
Here are more examples of what they could have bought with the amount the went over budget by:
A Porche 911 special edition
400 pairs of Air Jordan retro edition shoes ($215 each)
4,000 hours of work, assuming you make $60,000 before taxes
22,879 gallons of milk ($3.89 per gallon)
89 pounds of gold ($1,124.75 per oz)
Conclusion
Next time instead of jumping to conclusions and “just doing it”:
Take some time to gather more information. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Get more information people who have already done it, not the people who are trying to sell it.
Seek the devils advocate and seriously consider what they have to say. You might be just confirming yourself!
Beware of the shame option. All other options seem great in context to a crappy one.
Gain a greater perspective by considering the opportunity costs.
7 sings That Yo're Making Your Children Narcissistic
Narcissism is defined as the excessive interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance. Vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-centeredness. Many think that the number of narcissistic children in western civilization is rising. I have created this handy dandy list for you to reference and see if certain things you are doing on the parenting front could be contributing to your child becoming narcissistic. Using this list I was able to even find some points where I may be going slightly astray (and we know how perfect I am!) Without further ado here is my list of 7 signs that you’re making your child(ren) Narcissistic.
You lead your child to believe they are infallible.
This can be done by over praising. Putting your child on a pedestal is easy to do because you created them, but acknowledging faults is human. It’s a healthy thing to be able to see that everyone has weaknesses.
You compare your child to other kids and tell them how they measure up.
Around age 7 or 8 kids start to compare themselves to others. It’s important that you aren’t putting undue pressure on them to be better then their peers at everything. Don’t compare to Mikey and tell them where he comes up short.
You view affection as something to be earned and therefore show little warmth.
This could be difficult to recognize in yourself I suppose, but if you are only hugging after a job well done or for specifics tasks completed. There is a difference in affection and appreciation versus making your child feel like they are better than others. You can love your child and think they hang the moon, but you don’t have to put down or take anything away from anyone else to do that.
You model behaviors such as inability to hear criticism.
We all know that one adult who can’t bear to hear that they are wrong. That can’t take any type of reply to their ideas or opinions other than “yep,” Don’t be that adult. You are better than that, and your child needs you to be better than that.
You Excessively Brag and Make Excuses for Your Child
Can we be honest here? You should be proud of your kid. Your kid probably does something fantastic stuff that mine can’t do. However it’s ok too if your child messes up. In fact it’s better if they mess up while they are children, so they learn to handle that. If you make excuses for their behaviors instead of showing them how to deal with not being perfect- you are missing out a learning opportunity for the child. And as it turns out you may be raising a narcissist.
You Speak Badly of Anyone That is “Different” in Front of Your Child
This one is trickier and trickier it seems. In a time when we are so enlightened it seems that everyone feels shamed for their views. There is a difference in pointing out how you disagree with a religion/belief system and trying to prove you are superior to it. Expressing superiority in regards to age/race/gender/sexual preference – gosh, just please don’t do that. Let’s be past that in this generation, okay?
You Recognize Narcissistic Traits in Yourself and Don’t Take Steps To Get Better
There is a hereditary component to narcissism. There are personality traits that is a person is born with. However if you feel like you have some traits that fall into the Narcissistic column and you don’t get some help before having a kid… it may be time to re-evaluate now. Some day when you are in the old folks’ home and your grown-up child is too wrapped up in him/herself to visit you, you will possibly regret not taking some time to work on these things now.
If you are interested in more information on this that is less opinion and more scientific please go to this link to find what the Washington Post wrote about the subject. I found it extremely interesting and well
You lead your child to believe they are infallible.
This can be done by over praising. Putting your child on a pedestal is easy to do because you created them, but acknowledging faults is human. It’s a healthy thing to be able to see that everyone has weaknesses.
You compare your child to other kids and tell them how they measure up.
Around age 7 or 8 kids start to compare themselves to others. It’s important that you aren’t putting undue pressure on them to be better then their peers at everything. Don’t compare to Mikey and tell them where he comes up short.
You view affection as something to be earned and therefore show little warmth.
This could be difficult to recognize in yourself I suppose, but if you are only hugging after a job well done or for specifics tasks completed. There is a difference in affection and appreciation versus making your child feel like they are better than others. You can love your child and think they hang the moon, but you don’t have to put down or take anything away from anyone else to do that.
You model behaviors such as inability to hear criticism.
We all know that one adult who can’t bear to hear that they are wrong. That can’t take any type of reply to their ideas or opinions other than “yep,” Don’t be that adult. You are better than that, and your child needs you to be better than that.
You Excessively Brag and Make Excuses for Your Child
Can we be honest here? You should be proud of your kid. Your kid probably does something fantastic stuff that mine can’t do. However it’s ok too if your child messes up. In fact it’s better if they mess up while they are children, so they learn to handle that. If you make excuses for their behaviors instead of showing them how to deal with not being perfect- you are missing out a learning opportunity for the child. And as it turns out you may be raising a narcissist.
You Speak Badly of Anyone That is “Different” in Front of Your Child
This one is trickier and trickier it seems. In a time when we are so enlightened it seems that everyone feels shamed for their views. There is a difference in pointing out how you disagree with a religion/belief system and trying to prove you are superior to it. Expressing superiority in regards to age/race/gender/sexual preference – gosh, just please don’t do that. Let’s be past that in this generation, okay?
You Recognize Narcissistic Traits in Yourself and Don’t Take Steps To Get Better
There is a hereditary component to narcissism. There are personality traits that is a person is born with. However if you feel like you have some traits that fall into the Narcissistic column and you don’t get some help before having a kid… it may be time to re-evaluate now. Some day when you are in the old folks’ home and your grown-up child is too wrapped up in him/herself to visit you, you will possibly regret not taking some time to work on these things now.
If you are interested in more information on this that is less opinion and more scientific please go to this link to find what the Washington Post wrote about the subject. I found it extremely interesting and well
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